When Loneliness O’ertakes Me . . .

Lines from a hymn by L.O. Sanderson and Thomas O. Chisholm from 1935 strike memories of my youth.  “Be with me Lord, when loneliness o’ertakes me . . .”  If I might make an opening statement . . . loneliness is real, it’s powerful, it’s dangerous.

Perhaps the true weapon of the “bully” is the alienation of an individual by rude behavior, slander, physical and mental abuse of an order which is difficult to understand.

It is a weapon of the narcissist.  “The world revolves around me and you are not worthy to be in my orbit.

It is how a child feels when self-absorbed parents berate them and take away their self-esteem by calling them “stupid,” “worthless,” “a mistake.”

The lonely feeling can be the worst of the worst lows.  It hurts in an undefinable space and can lead a weaker soul to end their existence to end the pain.

Its’ fruit is sometimes terrible marriages made of desperation to not be left alone when all the “gang” is getting married and having munchkins.

It is one of the reasons young people join gangs and do unspeakable things to “fit in.”  

The Evil One (Satan) uses loneliness to temp people to seek evil companionship.

It seems like an endless spiral into oblivion because a lonely person sees time moving faster as they get a bit older and still are by themselves.

Back in the 1970’s a popular music group called “Bread” had a song which is a narrative of a father urging his daughter not to get anxious, but to wait for the right, best man to come along.  “Daughter, don’t give your love to the first man you see.  Just bide your time and your heart will be free to find the one,  girl you don’t have to run.”

The lonely person might not realize that others are lonely also.  It’s the reason online dating sites are money makers.

I remember when my older sister started dating.  Then she was engaged.  Then she was married.  Then, though we weren’t best buddies, or anything like that, I now was the only sibling left in the house.  Who would I torment now?

Through all the pain that there is in the world,  there is one man who became the most lonely for a short time.  His Father turned his back on him at His lowest hour.  He had no one to console Him or hold His hand.  His cry was “My God, My God, why hast thou forsaken me?”

This is the one the song calls for …”Be with me Lord.”

The Lord of the 23rd Psalm  is with us if we have Him as our Lord.
(4) Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me; Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.

The Lord of Matthew 28:20 (and lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. ) is with those who are His disciples.

It is good to remember: We sing “be with me Lord,” when He has promised to be with us already.  Maybe our cry should be to be with Him.  He’s done His part.  He endured the loneliness of separation from God in the darkness of the grave.  He arose victorious so that we could have a hope of the friendship of the Son of God!  We can again commune with our Creator!.  We can be called “Sons of God!”  Heirs to the promise of eternal life with Him!  God be Praised!

The Lord has reached out His hand to pull us out of the loneliness of the world.  He stretched it out when he endured the cross for us.  “Greater love has no man than this, that he lay down His life for a friend. Ye are my friends , if you do the things which I command you.”  John 15:13,14

  • You are loved,
  • You are valuable.
  • You can be a friend of the Son of God.  Children of God!
  • Our Lord loved you enough to die for you so you would not have to endure eternal loneliness.

The call is for you to be a friend to Jesus.  Be His disciple, and loneliness will no longer have power over you.



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